Rain Delay…


Rain DelayThis weekend was supposed to be filled with baseball.  Instead, it’s been filled with laundry, dishes, and TV.  I’ve become a slave to my email… waiting for each weather update.  So far, it hasn’t stopped raining.

I’ve been managing the day pretty well.  I’m not stressing about what’s going to happen.  I’m just trying to make the best use of my time right now.  I really wanted to watch some 10U baseball today, but God had other plans.

Sometimes our lives are filled with rain delays.  We want to be getting on with the plan… our plan, but God has something else in store.  God’s plans are always better than ours, but waiting out that plan is hard.  Granted, it’s harder for some than others.  If we can just take ourselves out of the picture and realize that God has everything in His hands, maybe there would be a little less anxiety.

Next time God brings some rain in your life, take the time to enjoy it.  Get a little wet… dance in it… dance through it… There’s always sunshine on the other side.

“In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

Are You Paying Attention?…


HairA few days ago my husband called from Australia.  This was a treat!  I was lying on my bed chatting away.  My youngest son sat on my back and started brushing my hair.  He has a fascination with my hair, just like his dad.  Anyway, I was talking… not paying much attention to my son.  I did notice that the brushing stopped about the time we were ending our phone call.  Then, I felt this weird tugging.  I asked him what he was doing.  His answer… “it’s stuck.”  The conversation that ensued was an eight year old’s education as to why you can’t roll hair with a comb.  I ended up going to a neighbor’s house to have the comb removed.  Thank God for good friends… another fun memory to share.

This incident made me realize that this happened because I wasn’t paying attention.  I seem to have a problem with this lately. I’m having a problem with my older son and his grades.  Mostly, because I’ve been letting him slide and I haven’t been paying attention.  I’ve been so focused on the younger’s grades, because they weren’t so great, that I wasn’t paying attention to the older’s.  He does his homework independently.  He hasn’t asked for help… I thought he was doing ok.  I was wrong.

Not paying attention gets us in a lot of trouble.  We need to pay attention at all times… while driving, while walking, while making a purchase, while cooking, while talking, well, you get my point.

We must pay attention is our relationships, too.  If we don’t put the attention and care into our relationships that we put in everything else, they fail.  A marriage can not survive without our full attention.  We can’t just let things slide and assume that everything is ok.  One day, you’ll realize how far from ok you have become.

It’s a little harder for deployed families.  Sometimes weeks pass before you are able to talk.  I am so thankful for technology.  I don’t know if I would’ve made it if I had to wait on a letter to arrive.  My husband and I manage pretty well, I think.  For now, we take what we can get and do our best to stay connected.  We pray for the day when we will be together again.

Our relationship with Christ is infinitely more important.  We definitely can’t let that slide!  If we (all of us) aren’t drawing near to God, we are falling away.  When we fall away, we let sin control our lives little by little until one day we can’t recognize who we are.  If you are going to pay attention to anything in this life, make sure it’s Christ.  Without Him, there’s nothing.

Remain in me, and I will remain in you.  No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine.  Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” John 15:4

What Are You Waiting For?…


29753_10150207814735008_722980007_12276545_927369_nThis picture is of my husband and his mother.  He traveled all the way from the US to Australia for his 40th birthday to meet her for the first time.  They both look full of joy in this picture.

My husband was born overseas while his dad was serving in the military.  Long story, but his dad came back to the states with him, without his mother.  So, my husband grew up knowing nothing about her other than her name and her South African nationality.  Once we were married, I searched for her for years to no avail.

One Sunday, while getting ready for church, I received a message on Facebook from his half-sister.  It was a total shock.  He never knew he had a sister… much less two!  He went to meet them for his 40th birthday.  I can’t explain it, but an emptiness in his heart was filled.  I wish I had shared that experience with him, but we couldn’t afford for all of us to make that journey.

The past few years, they’ve all kept in touch.  His mother has sent cards and gifts to the boys.  It’s been a great experience and a neat story to tell.

A few weeks ago, she was diagnosed with cancer.  Her prognosis was not good, she was given four weeks to live.  The family contacted the Red Cross and was able to get my husband off his ship and to Australia to be with her.  My husband knew that he could not help her, but just being there made a huge difference for all of them.

He’s called home a few times.  He said that he and his mom talked his first day there.  His words “it was good.”  Translated, that means he said everything he needed to say and she said everything she needed to say.  What a blessing it is to have time to say all the things that you never got to say before you die.  What a blessing to give one last hug, one last kiss… to hold hands for one last time.

My husband called and said that his mother passed away a few hours ago.  God’s timing is perfect.  If my husband wouldn’t have been deployed to Japan, we might not have been able to afford to get him there.  He made it there in time to see her in good spirits.  He’s only been there a few days, but will be able to stay for the funeral and time with his new-found family.  His mother waited until everyone made it to the hospital before she passed.  Again, God’s timing is perfect.

I hate that I am not able to be with him while he’s dealing with this loss, but I’m comforted knowing that he is not alone.  I am also so thankful that nothing was left unsaid.  It makes me wonder why we don’t say these things to our loved ones now?  Why do we think there will be time?  Only God know when we will leave this earth.  We may have time to say our last words, we may not.

I never met his mother, but her life and death has given me a desire to make sure that my family and friends know how much they mean to me.  I don’t want to wait until the end because I want to live with love, not just die with it.

Do you have something that you need to say to someone?  What are you waiting for?

“Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?”‘ John 11:25-26