A few days ago my husband called from Australia. This was a treat! I was lying on my bed chatting away. My youngest son sat on my back and started brushing my hair. He has a fascination with my hair, just like his dad. Anyway, I was talking… not paying much attention to my son. I did notice that the brushing stopped about the time we were ending our phone call. Then, I felt this weird tugging. I asked him what he was doing. His answer… “it’s stuck.” The conversation that ensued was an eight year old’s education as to why you can’t roll hair with a comb. I ended up going to a neighbor’s house to have the comb removed. Thank God for good friends… another fun memory to share.
This incident made me realize that this happened because I wasn’t paying attention. I seem to have a problem with this lately. I’m having a problem with my older son and his grades. Mostly, because I’ve been letting him slide and I haven’t been paying attention. I’ve been so focused on the younger’s grades, because they weren’t so great, that I wasn’t paying attention to the older’s. He does his homework independently. He hasn’t asked for help… I thought he was doing ok. I was wrong.
Not paying attention gets us in a lot of trouble. We need to pay attention at all times… while driving, while walking, while making a purchase, while cooking, while talking, well, you get my point.
We must pay attention is our relationships, too. If we don’t put the attention and care into our relationships that we put in everything else, they fail. A marriage can not survive without our full attention. We can’t just let things slide and assume that everything is ok. One day, you’ll realize how far from ok you have become.
It’s a little harder for deployed families. Sometimes weeks pass before you are able to talk. I am so thankful for technology. I don’t know if I would’ve made it if I had to wait on a letter to arrive. My husband and I manage pretty well, I think. For now, we take what we can get and do our best to stay connected. We pray for the day when we will be together again.
Our relationship with Christ is infinitely more important. We definitely can’t let that slide! If we (all of us) aren’t drawing near to God, we are falling away. When we fall away, we let sin control our lives little by little until one day we can’t recognize who we are. If you are going to pay attention to anything in this life, make sure it’s Christ. Without Him, there’s nothing.
Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” John 15:4