Delayed Gratification…


SlugI’m slowly coming out of my funk.  I’ve been walking the past two days.  The sunshine and fresh air really does wonders to the soul.

As I was walking out of my neighborhood this morning, I had an idea for a blog post.  I wanted a picture of a slug as my illustration.  I walked almost three miles.  I prayed that if God wanted me to write this post, he needed to send me a slug.  I looked hard the whole way.  I turned back into the neighborhood after not finding one and thought “ok, I guess I shouldn’t write about that today.”  then, two houses from home I came across this fellow right in the middle of the sidewalk.  Even a slug can be answered prayer!

My thought was on delayed gratification.  That is almost a thing of the past in today’s society.  We are so filled with self-indulgence that we can (and do) get what we want right when we want it.  Today is filled with credit cards and laziness.  What happened to saving for something we wanted… or even putting in some hard work for something?

There is something to be said for earning something through hard work, patience, and persistence.  It makes the goal that much sweeter when you reach it.  When we buy things with money we don’t have, or have things given to us, we tend to not appreciate them as much.

I’m trying to teach my boys the value of money and the value of work. It is hard to teach your children something when they are surrounded by the opposite.  I’m trying to teach them that God gives us the things that we need and that we must be good stewards of what is given to us.  I think that they are beginning to understand.  I hope that they grow to be hard workers, savers, and great givers.

Sometimes, just because we want something doesn’t mean that we have to have it that moment.  We may even have to walk three miles to see a slug…

“The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty.” Proverbs 21:5




GrassThis is what I did today.  It’s not all I did today, but tackling my backyard, armed only with a mower, was significant!  I haven’t written in a while.  Mostly because I’ve been in a funk.  I think I’m starting to come out of it… hope so anyway.

To most that know me this may come as a surprise.  I’m seen where I need to be seen… always with a smile… always trying to encourage others… all the while fighting off depression as well as I can.  I get the boys out the door in the morning and crawl back into my bed.  Somehow, spending another hour with the covers pulled over my head comforts me… yet at the same time draws me further in to my funk.

I think that most people see my world as under control, happy, and a place where everything gets done.  Outwardly, I guess that’s true.  The world that I see is filled with disrespectful children, failing grades, uncertainty of what my husband’s next orders will be, and weeds overtaking the back yard.  I’m getting all the tasks done, but I feel like the big picture is spiraling into chaos.

Today, I tackled the one thing that I could… the backyard.  (Yes, I mowed the front yard, too.  The backyard is the beast that is hidden behind the fence.)  Something about being in the sun and smelling the combination of grass and gasoline made me happy.  I was so hot and tired, but as I looked behind me and saw what I had accomplished I pressed forward.

I’m not saying that all is right in my world now that the grass is cut, but at least I did it.  I don’t know how to conquer the disrespectful children or failing grades, but today I feel like I am above it rather than being swallowed by it.  To me, that is huge.

I don’t know if anyone else battles with these feelings?  I assume so.  Depression is such a silent disease.  We put on our outward masks because we don’t want to admit what is going on inside.  When we do that, we just make it worse.  So, in my forever attempt at transparency, I hope that you realize that you are not alone.

Now… all this being said… mom, I’m ok.  I’m not going off the deep end.  I love you… I know you love me.  I am ok. 🙂

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.  In this world you will have trouble.  But take heart? I have overcome the world.” John 16:33