Our church choir is going through some changes lately. Due to the changes, we have songs that certain soloists sang that are now being sung by different soloists. Sometimes, we get in our head that the song “belongs” to one specific person because they sing it, and sing it great I might add. However, someone else comes along, and given the chance, sings it just as great.
This made me think about how we are as mothers. (This may not apply to everyone, but I know there are a number of people like me out there!) We do things around our houses and for our children. We don’t let our spouse or children do the same things because they don’t do it “right.” And, by “right” I mean our way.
I have had a real problem with this is my life, but have slowly learned that a task can be done by two different people, in two different ways, and still get done. The dishes may not be in the cabinet exactly as I would have arranged them, but there they sit and I didn’t have to unload the dishwasher. The towels might not be folded exactly the way I would have folded them, but they are folded. The kids’ hair might not be the way I would have done it, but they are still just as handsome.
Do you have issues similar to this? Are you controlling or micro-managing your household because you want it done your way? Did you ever stop to think that if two voices can sing the same song differently, but equally as good that maybe someone else could vacuum, put up the dishes, or fold the laundry? What blessings are you robbing someone else of because you don’t want to release control?
Although, I am still a work in progress, I have managed to loosen the reigns a bit and allow my husband and boys to help out. I have learned not to go behind them and “fix” things, too. I used to rearrange the dishes in the dishwasher and even rearrange the ornaments on the Christmas tree. Don’t laugh, I know you’ve done it, too!
By allowing someone to help, you are giving them ownership, teaching your kids responsibility, and most of all giving yourself a break. That, is a great thing!
“Two people are better than one. They can help each other in everything they do.” Ecclesiastes 4:9