I tell my boys all the time… “think before you speak.” I think this is something that we all struggle with. Sometimes, I offer an opinion when I should just keep my mouth shut. I’m not sure about you, but it’s hard for me to keep my mouth shut.
Recently, I have witnessed a couple mortifying moments… people saying things that truly sliced someone else. I love all the people who were involved in both situations. Loving these people made the situation even more difficult for me. I wasn’t sure how to handle either situation. So, in the moment, I chose silence.
I saw a friend publicly embarrassed, humiliated really, at a church event. It was like watching Mean Girls the Senior Edition. I felt so bad for my friend and I hope that the ladies involved didn’t truly intend to be as mean as they were. Like I said, I love these ladies and it was hard to see them be so publicly vicious.
The other moment is more personal and I will leave it at that. After both of these incidences happening days apart, it has caused me to think more deeply about how words can hurt people. I know that we are raised with “sticks and stones…” but that’s crap. Words can be devastating. Words can’t be taken back. Words can be forgiven, but never forgotten.
As Christians, we need to be in the business of lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. We need to think before we speak. Would you feel ok if someone said that to you… or your child… or your friend? If the answer is “yes,” speak away, but if you aren’t sure, it’s best to just put a zipper on it and shut up.
“May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.” Psalm 19:14