Last night, I got a little upset about something that was said to my boys. To give you a short back story, another child made a comment of something that was said about one (then both) of my boys at their home. The comment wasn’t nice.
My oldest was upset for a while last night. Two of his Awana teachers even noticed and asked me what was wrong. At the time, I had no idea. By the time we were headed home last night, he was over it. Both boys told me what was said, in passing, but seemed to have already processed their feelings and put it behind them. I love them for that!
Anyway, I wasn’t over my feelings. Once I got them in bed, my mind reeled over the situation. Tears came… mostly out of anger. I posted on Facebook generically about the comments. I mean, how dare they say that about my boys?! Who do they think they are?!
Then… time went by… I got quiet… I prayed… God whispered in my ear… “Who do you think you are?” It came crashing back… a comment that I had made about one of the boys’ classmates a few weeks ago. Evidently, this girl said something negative about my boys. They were telling me about it in the car and I just blurted out… “well, she’s fat!” My youngest laughed so hard that he started crying. We all had a good laugh about it. But, it wasn’t funny. It was horrible. I know I said that to counteract what they had heard, but it still wasn’t right.
What made me any different from the other parent talking about my boys? Was I to be upset merely because she was referring to my kids. Is it ok for me, but not anyone else? The short answer… no.
While I sat on my bed last night trying to peel the last shavings of plank out of my eye, I realized that I had done the very thing I was so upset about to someone else. That is a hard realization… and much harder to admit. A few lessons I hope I can retain…
1. Don’t offer my opinion on how I feel about others if it is negative.
2. Remember that kids talk. What you think might be between your family will usually walk out the door and be repeated.
3. Don’t be so quick to judge others bad behavior. You might be making the same mistakes.
I’m sure there are plenty other lessons to be learned from this situation, but for now I’m going to work on these. Are there any planks in your eyes? They are painful to recognize, but we are much better off after removing them.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” Matthew 7:3-5